A Family Discussion: Higher Education

During my senior year in high school, I was fairly concerned about getting into college as well as which college I would attend. For many, final application deadlines to college will arrive soon.

There is one important discussion that I will suggest needs to take place regarding college: what you expect to pay and what, besides a slip of paper, do you expect to get in return for your hard-earned dollars.  As some of the protestors of Occupy Wall Street will tell, just getting a degree does not entitle you to a good-paying job. It may increase your chances of qualifying for certain positions.

In this environment, it makes sense to shop smart when it comes to higher education.  This could mean looking at in-state public schools or schools that will grant an in-state rate if you live in a closely neighboring state rather than some of the pricier private higher education options. The lower cost schools could provide a potential for receiving a larger return on your educational dollar spent.

Another thing to consider is the major. Chances are that the average engineer will make more than the average artist. One has to question the financial wisdom of spending significant amounts of money in hopes of a career that will lead to a lower than average income. If you earn significantly more than the average person, chances are that you will consider your college education dollars well spent.

This is not to say that money is the only factor when it comes to education, but given the skyrocketing costs of higher education, it is a significant one for many. My suggestion is that you have a family discussion regarding the costs and probable outcomes regarding the decisions you make before falling in love with any particular college. The “dividends” resulting from the discussion(s) could be quite substantial and chances are that your child will thank you later on in life for having them.

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Provocative: On Private Education

The other day I was eating lunch, and I overheard a number of people talking about private school education. I, myself, went to private school for secondary education and even went to a private liberal arts college in New England. Judging from the amount of resources that my parents spent in order to provide for this education, I am left with one extremely important question: “Was it worth it?”

I could speak anecdotally regarding my experience or on observations that I could make on former classmates as opposed to others I have known. However, I am going to speak from a value standpoint. When asked, “Why do you want to send your children to private school?” many of my clients state that they want to help insure that their children are more successful in life. When further pressed on why education is so important, most state that it is so that their children will have a better career and a better income. Many are also quick to say that we live in a tough economy. The question that I have is this, given the cost of private secondary and higher education and the opportunity costs of not investing that tuition money, would the child not be better off with a trust fund of that money to help navigate life?

It is acknowledged that there are a wide range of costs depending on the private school one attends, and that financial concerns are not the only value. I have even heard it pointed out by parents that private schooling is not so much about education as a means that those of a certain socio-economic class could mingle with those of like class. There may be a substantial value in that for some people. Nonetheless, I do strongly believe that the opportunity cost of private school education needs to be rigorously examined. Looking at the tuition costs of my alma maters (almae matres for all of you Latin fanatics), I know that I feel any progeny that I may have probably would be better off with a million dollars in a trust fund when they turn 25 or 30 than they would be duplicating my private school education experience.

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Goal Setting: An Introduction – Part 4

The Final Countdown

Hopefully you have had a chance to sleep and now are ready to look over your now shortened brackets again. By this point, you should have narrowed out 75% or more of the items that you had originally listed. What you now see before you is somewhat important to you at least at this time. It probably would be a good idea to keep each of these to reference at a later time.

Now it is time to repeat the bracket process. Have all of your remaining items listed and see how they stack with each other. Once you get down to your final eight, you really should consider getting someone you trust in on the process. Talk with them over why these items are important to you. Discuss how you would plan to achieve each of these goals. What steps would be necessary and how would it impact your life in other areas?

How practical would it be to achieve each of these items?

Please note that just because a goal is difficult does not mean that it is not attainable and should not be pursued before an easier goal. There is a saying that one should reach for the low-hanging fruit first. Those who say this probably have never picked apples professionally. When picking apples, you usually climb a ladder with a bag and pick the apples on the top of the tree (which usually are the highest quality) first, and then as the bag gets heavier, you descend the ladder and eventually pick the low-hanging fruit. Do not shun a goal or dream that is important to you because it is not easy. These may even be the most important ones to pursue first.

Now that you have had a chance to talk over at least your final eight with someone else, choose your top four and rank them. These are the items that I would advise placing your efforts and resources on.  Tell your trusted partner what these goals are and work out a plan to try to achieve them.  Keep accountable with progress reports on these goals, and chances are that you will be more likely to reach them.

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Goal Setting: An Introduction – Part 3

Prioritization of Goals

Have you put together your lists? Now comes the fun part…

Perhaps you are familiar with the bracket system in sports playoffs. In continuation of this exercise, you are going to take your lists and have a number of playoffs. Take the first two items in your list. Between these two items, if could have only one… which would you choose? The one that you choose gets to remain on your list… the other one you can revisit at a later time. Repeat this process until you are down to no more than two items for those areas that are not important to you and no more than four items for those areas that matter the most to you. Now, there is a strong chance that you will have had trouble deciding between two items… Take a look at what you feel would be ranked number one on your new list… Did anything that it eliminated give you some trouble? If so, now it is time for our “wild card” standing. Take your new wild card contender and rerun it against the top items of your list. If it is more important to you than some of your short list items, feel free to bump these other items with your “wild card”.

Now that you have your top two or four in each respective category, it is time to do some soul searching. Why is this item so important to you? What do you imagine your life would be like if you attained this dream/goal? How would your current relationships change? Correspondingly, how would you feel about yourself if you did not? Could this goal be characterized as “SMART”? If not, how would you change it so that it would be specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, and time-bound? Is there any way you could capture an image to visualize what it would be like to attain this goal?

By this point, you probably have done a fair amount of soul searching and it is time to take a break and distancing yourself from these goals that you have for just a little bit… perhaps it would make sense to sleep before looking at these again.


Goal Setting: An Introduction – Part 2

The List

Many people often have a variety of different interests whether related to work, interests, relationships or religion. Seldom does it make sense for one to drop everything else to pursue one thing. That being said, we all only have 168 hours in our week and a certain degree of talents, skills, and resources we can place towards attaining our dreams and goals. Most people’s goals and dreams fall in the following eight areas:

Career (Your work, job, profession, etc. and related goals)

Community (Any volunteer activities)

Educational/Mental (Any educational activities, formal or self-educational)

Family/Friends (Relations you care about)

Interests (Hobbies, travel, etc.)

Material (Items that you want: cars, jewelry, homes, etc.)

Physical (Any physical goals you may have)

Religious/Spiritual (Beliefs relating to a philosophy or a higher power)

Not everyone has strong interests in all of these areas. It may be that you have interests in only one or two of these areas. It may be that you have interests in all eight over the course of your lifetime, but it is just not practical to deal with these all at once. That is understandable as well. What thought have you given to these areas?

As an exercise, you may want to spend some time thinking about these areas in your life and write down whatever comes to mind. Try to have a list in each of these areas. If it is an area in which you do not have strong feelings, try to come up with at least eight items. If it is an area that is important to you, try to come up with a list of at least sixteen items. Do not worry about whether an item listed is really important at this stage. That will come later. This is an opportunity for brainstorming/exploration. This exercise could easily take a couple of hours of your time. Enjoy it.

Goal Setting: An Introduction – Part 1

Why It Matters

It has been stated that “If you fail to plan, you plan to fail.” As a self-described planner, I am not certain that statement is entirely true. However, it does seem that one could potentially achieve more satisfaction out of life if one had an objective or objectives and a map to get there.

After all, much talk has been given to the Harvard 1979 study or the Yale 1953 study regarding the importance of goal setting. In these studies the 3% that had a concrete written plan for their goals outperformed the other 97% combined by a factor of ten. If such a study were true, it would be extremely compelling. Unfortunately, further research has shown that no such studies existed and that these studies are urban myth. Fortunately, a study was conducted at the Dominican University of California by Dr. Gail Mathews that showed that accountability, commitment, and writing down one’s goals did matter in the amount of success one had in reaching one’s goals.

If you could potentially achieve 20 or 30% more of what you wanted to achieve, for 2-5% of your time, would that seem worthwhile? If the answer is yes, then it may make sense to continue reading beginning in the next paragraph… if not, then I do not want to waste your time. Please read or look at something else. Please enjoy life. Please do something with meaning.

For Those Who Cared… What is a Goal?

According to thefreedictionary.com, the word goal is a noun defined as: “1. the purpose toward which an endeavor is directed; an objective.” Many other dictionaries have a similar definition.

Many have suggested that a goal has five characteristics often remembered by the mnemonic SMART.

  • Specific (It is particular.)
  • Measurable (It can be objectively measured.)
  • Attainable (It is possible to achieve.)
  • Relevant (It matters to you.)
  • Time-Bound (It has a timeline to be achieved.)

In our next part, we will discuss what to do with you goals.