People are often surprised at the amount of time that I spend trying to find out about what it is they that want, their likes and dislikes. I hate to say this. I am also a little surprised that I feel I have to say it. There are many people that are living someone else’s life. They are devoting their resources: time, energy, and possessions to items that are not truly important to them. Instead of focusing on what they may list as truly important, they instead spend time keeping up with the Jones’s… buying a certain type of house, a certain type of car, etc. not because they truly want that, but in order to keep up appearances.
Are our lives truly so dictated by others? Do we find ourselves succumbing to the same peer pressure that we as a society preach against to our children? I run across a number of couples each year who I have to give permission to live their own lives. That if time doing something is important to them, then focus on the things that will allow them to do that without worry rather than building up a bunch of stuff that would please someone else. If you have to buy something to impress your friends, perhaps you should ask yourself if they are really your friends.
I read through this article and realize that many will take a look at this and think to themselves, where is the financial planning here? There are no numbers. There are no investment selections. There are no directions for special tax treatment. There is no protection or estate planning. To those of you who are wondering, I challenge you to contact me, because there are many people who are wasting hundreds of thousands of dollars if not millions living someone else’s life. By first deciding to bark up the right tree, one can save years of heartache.
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